Twenty Days Later by Lois Olmstead May 17, 2016

On September 30, 2016, in Inspiration, by speaker

Probably the best way to start this new stage in my life is to note the things I have already learned in the last twenty days without He-Who-Takes-Long-Steps by my side.
1. On our washer control panel is a ‘Small Loads’ choice. I switch to it now. Also it sure takes a long time to fill a dishwasher when you are just one.
2. Watching the Nightly News at 10 pm is no fun when you can’’t debate the issues and express delight or dismay over the weather when the chair next to yours is empty.
3. I have learned I can cry buckets of tears and there are still more buckets left …and in the same day I can get the giggles remembering a story that he loved to tell.
4. There are many things I’’m not sure about, like does He-Who hear me when I holler to him? You see the microwave/fan over our stove quit two days after the funeral. It is 14 months old. I called the house maintenance man. He said, “Did you fill out the warranty card that came with it?” I said, “No I did not but my husband did. He was fastidious about stuff like that.” He said “Great, we’’ll schedule a time to come fix or replace it.” I said bye and hollered “Thank you,” to He-Who. Did he hear me?
5. He-Who wrote and kept maintenance manuals on everything. He has detailed drawings of water lines and wiring diagrams for everything. Just ask Henry that bought our place in the hayfield. Along with the deed he got a big 3-ring binder with how to run the water system, the heat, where lines were buried and how to turn on the outlets for Christmas decorations along with other stuff. For the well pump to the lawn mower to his pickup, each owner’’s manual is in order on a shelf at our house.
However he missed one manual – Notes from a Green Thumb Gardener to Wifey who can plan but not plant nor grow! He-Who turned our hayfield place into a beautiful green paradise with tall trees and bountiful bushes. Now here I am with seven spindly tall toothpick thin sticks with a few green leaves on them each growing in coffee cans on our porch. “These are all going to be our flowering bushes,” he told me last fall. Where is the manual on this? So the lesson here, men, make the manuals! (Maybe that could go for wives too – will he know how to run the blender if you are gone?)
6. This is serious. Make a will and write your funeral wishes. When we did not know if I would win my battle with cancer in 1992 we did all that right down to the music we wanted (although I kept going to the safe and changing my songs when I’d hear a better one). It made all of the last two weeks easier knowing what he wanted and all those records were in order. If you do not have a will and plans in place, do it. What a difference it makes to those you leave behind.
Lastly for today, know Psalm 23 is true. Even though it is our ‘The Lord is my Shepherd’ psalm, there is more to it. Yes there are green pastures where He “maketh and leadeth” us when we don’t ‘stoppeth and thinketh’ but there is more.
I always thought verse 4 was for us when we were in tough shape and really sick. “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Now methinks it is for me, the living left behind. And I am comforted.

 

How I Came To Believe

I am at an age in my life where it is hard for me to remember anything. I walk into the kitchen to get something and when I get there, I can’t remember why I came there. ‘Course I don’t want to spend much time in my kitchen anyway because I don’t like to cook.

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